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Wow! We are on week 9 of our 10-week challenge to stay in a place of calm so we have access to our being more often. Our true power exists at our calm center where nothing and no one can bother us or pull us off track. I hope you’ve been noticing more and more of those moments as you’ve been practicing for the past 8 weeks.
Today’s Monday Moment is about taking control of our time.
Many of us have the true desire to make ourselves available to our teams, our clients, and those we love. That’s a noble thing. However, what I find with many of my coaching clients (and myself), is that in an effort to be available, we often give up control of our time.
Being too giving with our time can set us up to be spinning around everyone else’s priorities, which can easily lead to overwhelm and burnout.
Your time belongs to you. You have a right to make decisions about what the best use of your time is. We all have the same 24 hours in a day; no more, no less.
As a leader that means you have a responsibility to actively decide how you are using your daily allotment of 24 hours. I’m not talking about being rigid about it. I am talking about consciously deciding how you want to use the time you have. When you get clear about this, overwhelm diminishes, stress goes down, you get to do more of the things that are truly important to you, and you spend more time being at your best.
How to take control?
Two things can make a big difference: actively setting boundaries, and saying no. We already talked about the power of saying no in week #6, so we’ll focus on setting boundaries in today’s Monday Moment.
Week 9 - Monday Moment Habit Creator
Steps To Actively Setting Boundaries:
1. Look Back - Take a look at your calendar over the past 3-4 weeks and make note of where your time went. Then ask yourself: How much of my time did I take control of? You may be pleasantly surprised or surprisingly shocked.
Either way, this is the first step in figuring out who had control of your time. Did you give big chunks of your time away? Were you deliberate in how you used your time?
2. Look Ahead - Then take a look ahead at this week. How do you want to use your time? Do you want to work out first thing in the morning? If yes, schedule it on your calendar. Then stick to it.
3. Plan & Commit - Actively decide which 40 hours you want to work and what you will do with each hour. Then do your best to hold to the 40 hours you identified.
Want to spend more evenings and weekends with your family? Decide what time you’ll close your laptop at the end of the day and then keep it closed until you start to work the following morning.
There will always be more work than hours in the day. When you take a stand for how many hours you are giving to work, then things slowly start to change and you realize how much happier you are when you hold to the boundaries that matter to you.
This doesn’t happen overnight. But it is one of the most important habits my clients learn how to do.
If you’d like some help with this, reach out and we can find a time to chat. I’m happy to help you build this all-important habit! I’ll be doing this right along with you.
Let me know how it goes and what you discover.
If this Monday Moment resonated with you, please feel free to share it with a friend or colleague, and remember, if you ever feel stuck, I’m here to help.
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Have a great week!
Rita Webster, Ph.D.
The Executive Coach for Women Leaders
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