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Ever had something negative happen to you at work?
Then wondered why you can’t stop beating yourself up over it?
If you answered yes, you are not alone.
Many women, have had painful situations where a manager belittled them in a team meeting, a male colleague got the promotion that was promised to them, or feedback was given in a demeaning way.
We say things to ourselves like: “What did I miss? Why didn’t I do it differently? I should have known.”
Not only is this familiar approach a waste of time and energy, but blaming ourselves makes us feel bad and deflates our ability to be the confident leaders we truly are.
There is a better way.
It took me a number of years and coaching women leaders who found themselves in similar situations to finally realize that how we think about what happens to us makes all the difference.
And we have total control over what we think.
It may not seem like it at the time because we have so many automatic thoughts. But the truth is, we are in the driver’s seat when it comes to what we think.
We can tell ourselves a story that makes us feel empowered or disempowered.
Telling ourselves a blaming story is always disempowering.
It's like the bottom of the 9th in baseball where one half of the stadium is yelling "It's a ball!" and the other half "It's a strike!".
The umpire calmly strides from behind the plate and says "It ain't nothing until I call it!"
Like the umpire, no matter what life pitches at us, we are the ones who get to “call it.”
When we find ways to create empowering stories and thoughts around life’s pitches, we spend more time living the life we truly want and enjoying the moments that we have.
We sleep better.
We feel better.
We have more energy and confidence.
When life throws us a pitch, whether it’s something our manager says, a situation that doesn’t go our way or anything else that feels “negative” to us, remind yourself that “it aint nothing until I call it.”
We need ways to process negative situations that have happened to us. Especially so we can confidently create the happy futures we deserve!
That’s why I’ve created tools that show women how to deliberately look at these types of situations and redefine them by “calling it” on their own terms.
This makes it possible to transform situations into springboards for strength. And that leads to a kind of power that is admirable and unshakable.
If you’d like to test drive my newest It Ain’t Nothing Until I Call It tool, email me back.
It’s helped me and many of my clients move through negative situations faster.
I’d love to share it with you.
Until next time,
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